Friday I read a short book of essays about parenting. It was called Honey, I’m Sorry I Killed Your Aquasaurs (and other short essays on the parenting life) By Mollie Cox Bryan.
Like most of us, I tend to think that someone who has the gift of being able to put words on paper and create a story to captivate their audience for hours on end as in books and movies is a genius! Well, maybe some of them are, but guess what? They are also human as Mollie Cox Bryan shows us the most important part of her life in this book. Being a mom!
The book is a collection of slice-of-life parenting columns/essays. It touches on the funny and absurd along with the bittersweet and the difficult. Most of the essays were previously published in a long-running newspaper column, Thoroughly Modern Mollie.
After reading many of the essays, I found myself wanting to send Mollie an email… Had I been reading this column when it was originally written, I am sure I would have been communicating with her. So when I woke up Saturday morning, the first thing that came to mind was Mollie’s book….. I had to start writing my blog post!
Excerpt: Mollie’s three week adventure into single parenting!
In the midst of all this, a resounding clarity came over me at times. I can do this, I thought, I can. But I don’t want to. I have come to a whole understanding of what it takes to be a single parent. When you don’t have a partner to lean on, your strength comes from the deep-reservoir of love that you have for your children. It is a self-less place. There is no time to relax and watch TV at night, let alone, go for walks or get exercise, or to even have the presence of mind to eat right. I found myself ignoring bad behavior patterns in my kids just because I did not have the fortitude to deal with them.
This and I was not holding down a job outside of the house, (though I was working on a big article and issues with my book.) I can’t imagine what it must be like for a single parent who works all day and has to come home to tend to their children. It gives me pause, It should for all of us. Being a parent is tricky enough, but doing it without a partner, well let’s just say good single-parents must be angels in disguise.
Thank you, Mollie, an angel in disguise I am not. However, I definitely consider myself a successful single parent. I became a single parent 32 years ago. Although some may see divorce as the end of their life, for me, it was the beginning of the life that I was meant to live. I won’t sugar coat raising them, it was difficult, but definitely worth every bit of effort that I put into it. In one way or another, I have experienced most of the things Mollie talks about in her book. It was fun reminiscing as I read. Some of the moments were laugh out loud funny. For example, Mollie killed the Aquasaurs. Well, I sent my kids off for a boy scout weekend and they asked me to be sure and take care of their cat. Ut Oh! I tried, really I did. It wasn’t my fault that he escaped, took off, and never returned home. Whoops! I did find out later that he found a home a couple of blocks over and was being fed and taken care of. Thanks, neighbor! Although I love animals, pets were not something I could afford or have time to deal with as a single parent. It all works out in the end.
My Amazon Book Review:
Well, I picked this book up today thinking I would like to know more about Mollie as a parent. Well, this is exactly what I got. Mollie does a terrific job telling the stories of her parenting (but I already knew that about her) in an extremely light-hearted way. I found myself smiling a lot. Not so much because what she was saying was funny, but because I could relate to what she was saying. This is, after all, what the book is written for, I think! So moms out there, If you want to smile and know that all is going to be okay, read this book. It’s cute, but more importantly, its a realistic look at motherhood. Oh, if we could only change some of the things we did! My guess, we would probably do the same things all over again. I for one am pretty sure I wouldn’t change a thing. As a single mom of three boys, I can assure you it wasn’t easy, and many times I wanted to throw in the towel, but I did not, and so it goes!
Mollie, I especially enjoyed the essay about your Christmas traditions with your mom. I am hoping that as you clean out her home, you take some time to relax and reminisce with your family about all the good times! 🙂
The Single Parent essay struck close to home for me. Thanks Mollie for not throwing all single parents under the bus. I am one of the lucky ones, I raised three wonderful sons. I am forever thankful for family and friends who helped me along the way. Little things, like telling me how nice my boys were/are, or taking them someplace special when I was working or not very often, but relaxing. Those folks will always have a place in my heart!
I recently entered Mollie’s “Pages of Thanks” contest. Although I didn’t win, I want to share my scrapbook page with you. I am and will always be thankful for the family that God has given me!
Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas…..
and don’t forget to:
Live, Love, Laugh, and by all means, READ!